Tuesday, August 13, 2019

16 Years and Counting #WeddingAnniversary

"Marriage is an act of will that signifies and involves a mutual gift, 
which unites the spouses and binds them to their eventual souls, 
with whom they make up a sole family - a domestic church." 
- Pope John Paul II

16 years ago today, hubby and I decided to officially seal our long-distance relationship.  We've dated online for about 8  months and despite  skepticism and a lot of opposing opinions from other people, we gave it a go and believed that we could make it work.  Thank God we did because when I look at my  children now, I always think,  what if I listened to those voices and did not try us?  I would have regretted it for the rest of my life.    
Life is really unpredictable.  You never know what  will happen so it is best to take risks and try your  best to make it work.  I believe in destiny and fate.  Who would have known that a 30 year old me would  met a guy from almost-heaven, West Virginia.  I did not even  imagined I would go out of my country.  My childhood dream was to finish school and  find a good job and  hopefully meet a man and have a family we could both  raise.  Never in my dream I would  marry a foreigner and live outside my comfort zone but here we are 16 years later.
"The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue.
It's a choice you make - not just on your wedding day, but over and over again -
and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband or wife.
Barbara De Angelis

I thank God for blessing me a wonderful man, a great and loving husband and father to our children.  I thank him for choosing a little feisty Bicolana and bringing me here in WV, I love it here.
"There is no more lovely, friendly and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage. "
- Martin Luther
Thank you for marrying me and for being with me for all these years.  I hope that we could continue to celebrate blissful years like we have been since year one.  

I hope and pray that  we could grow old together.  That even if our hair turned grey, we  could continue to be  each other's strength and love each other till our last breath.  Thanks for the love, humor, and faith in me.   

"A wedding anniversary is the celebration of love,
 trust, partnership, tolerance and tenacity. 
The order varies for any given year."
Paul Sweeney

Thursday, July 11, 2019

Forty Six

Oh my, I am 4 years away of being in golden years lol.  I turned 46 last month but you know what's odd?  Although my body  tells me I'm getting old, I still feel like I am in my twenties.  At least that's what my mind tell me to believe  ha ha.  It's a good thing I guess.  Age is just a number.  Getting old is inevitable but we can choose  to  feel young and be  positive about aging. 

Our two children are still young and I worry sometimes if we will be able to be there for them before they settle down.  That's why I told myself to stay as positive as I can with everything that comes our way.  Getting married in the 30s and starting a family late comes with pros and cons.  I gotta say, it's been a blessing every step of the way.  I'm learning more and more everyday especially dealing with my patience.

Below are some words I can relate to or of importance to me which I listed as FORTY SIX.
F - FAMILY .. When I was a kid, I told myself that if ever I would have a family of my own ,   I don't want to have so many children.  I grew up with 8 siblings and life was tough but looking back at it now, I was blessed with brothers and sisters whom I can depend my life on.  We didn't have fancy things growing up but we had each other.  I stick with my plan, I only have two children and that's enough for me.
O - Optimism ... Growing up with nothing , optimism  is something that I really held on to.  I had to be optimistic all the time  in order for my life to be a little easier than it was.  My husband is a total opposite of mine, he is a pessimist but somehow we matched perfectly.
R - Responsibility ... My parents taught us responsibilities at an early age.  It is part of the Asian culture.  I am the second child so I was in-charge of my little siblings when my parents are away.  At the age of 7, I  knew how to do basic household chores like cooking rice, doing laundry (manually in the river), sweeping the yards every morning and feeding the chickens .  Now that I'm a parent, I teach my kids basic  things around the house that they need to learn how to do.
T - Tagalog is the language we used in the Philippines.  When my kids were little, I used to teach them how to speak tagalog but I somehow gave up.  I wish I continue to teach them so they can be bilinguals like me.
Y - Yearning ... It's been 10 years since I last visited my family  in the Philippines so my yearning for them is becoming more and more  everyday.  I do hope that we could  push through with our plan to visit next year.
S - Sentimental .. I am a very sentimental  person.  I have things I have hold on to because it bears a sentimental value to my being.
I - Independence .. I learned to become independent early on in life.  My parents taught me that and I am deeply appreciative of it.  

X - Xylophone ... When I was in high school, I wanted to  join the drum and bugle corps because I love playing xylophone but I didn't have money to buy the instrument so I ended up joining the ROTC instead.  
Forty Six is such a great age.  If God will give me an opportunity to live longer, I'd love to double my age.  Who knows what will happen to us, only God knows, right?  For now, I live day by day enjoying even the simplest things in life.  Living the life to the fullest especially with my children and husband.

Wednesday, February 20, 2019

Fifty Shades or Golden Years?

I was teasing my husband if what should I call him now that he turned 50 years old.  I said "Should I  go on a sexier version, Fifty Shades of Grey (hair) or Golden Man", he just laughed.  Anyway, he had this weight lifting goal of reaching 1000 pound before he turned 50 but he did not achieved it, he was so close though.  He did 900+lbs and I can see the big difference now  that he is really trying to live a healthier and more active lifestyle.  
He was a fit guy when he was still in the Navy but after he retired, he slipped downhill with his  exercise routines and gained weight. He is however getting back to shape although it is a bit harder now that he is older but that's the price you pay when you let yourself go.  He gets frustrated  sometimes because he couldn't do the things that he used to when he was in his prime 20s.  I have to remind him of how old he is now in order for him to realized that he ain't as strong as he used to be 30 years ago.
I had fun taking pictures of him when they had the Father and Daughter Dance last Friday.   He was exhausted but still managed to have fun with our daughter during the event.  He said that the whole day  we spent at the  History Bowl and the end result was the best birthday gift he has received.  He is always supportive of what our children wants to do and I love him for that.
I am so proud of this  guy.  After  serving 20 years in the Navy, he went back to school and got his master's degree.  He  started a new career  after  a couple of years of retirement and has been a huge support for us.  
He said that being in the military taught him  a lot of things  in life.  It's funny to think that when he was still in the service, he couldn't wait to retire but when he finally retired, I can tell he misses it.   I wasn't fond of the constant move but I do love the travel that comes with it.  He was spent his  tours in Asia so that gave us the opportunity to live in other places.   
Good health is always my wish for my family's birthdays.  I hope that you will have another 50 years of healthy life so we could be together for a long long time.